Kaninchen and I have safe words.
Red, Yellow, Green.
Red – Discontinue play immediately, something is wrong.
Yellow – Slow down or stop doing that.
Green – I’m okay, harder or more.
Kaninchen’s favorite color would be green, green, green or at least one would think because that is all I usually hear.
I have yet to hear red and hope that I never do.
However, I have heard yellow 3 times now.
The first time that I heard yellow I had LK’s arms suspended above her head. We had been playing for quite a while and she was deep in her sub-space. Our play was beginning to get intense and instead of slowing down and letting her mind catch up with her body I increased the intensity. Kaninchen’s body began to behave uncontrollably. Her mind was conflicted between pleasure and pain. At this point all of the pain had ceased but we had been on that fine line for so long that her senses were overwhelmed and she couldn’t distinguish the difference between pleasure and pain. That is my goal! She could almost derive pleasure from anything at that point.
All of the sudden Kaninchen uttered, “Yellow!”
Now I must admit that my demeanor during time critical emergency situations is second to none. The more challenging the situation the calmer I become, almost to a fault. So what did Mr. Calm, Cool and Collected do? I reached up and released the quick release knots that I tied to instantly remove LK from her dilemma. Kaninchen’s flaccid arms came plunging down to her hips. Her cuffs still bound her wrists together. She was in her sub-space, incapacitated of of sorts, incoherent. In the blink of an eye I went from overwhelming her senses in sub-space on the edge of an incredible orgasm to falling from the sky with no warning at all. I quickly grabbed her up and rushed her to the bed. Begging her to tell me what I had done to her. ( not my most Dom’ly moment)
Looking back I believe that the cause for my crucial overreaction was that whatever had happened to Kaninchen, my most prized possession, the woman that I love more than anything, happened because of what I had done to her. I was the cause. The one to blame. It was my fault. My hysterical overreaction prematurely ended one our hottest scenes and left LK scared and not understanding what had just happened to her.
Yellow – Slow down or stop doing that.
Simple enough… But difficult to do…
The second time Kaninchen said yellow I didn’t completely over react, however, I did completely stop what I was doing and once again ruined the scene. Again, she wasn’t in any pain or discomfort. Her senses were overwhelmed again and her mind needed to catch up to her body. The pleasure was overwhelming her!
Yellow – Slow down or stop doing that.
The third time I heard yellow I finally got it. She wasn’t asking, wanting or expecting me to stop. She just needed a few seconds for her mind to catch up. For her to realize that the sensations were in fact pleasurable. I didn’t stop! I didn’t ask her if she was alright! I didn’t ask her what was wrong! I simply slowed down, backed off a little. That was it. I monitored her very intently; Her breathing, her sweating, her sounds, her eyes, her everything. A few seconds later her mind had determined that she was alright and that she could continue. Without speaking a word I could recognize this realization and continued to a place, a level we had never been.
Later when we discussed the situation she was barely aware that this had taken place. She wasn’t panicking at all, she just needed a second. A second to catch up.
Yellow – Slow down or stop doing that.
If you have not heard your submissive say yellow, now is a good time to consider your reaction. When it does happen remember, don’t stop! She didn’t say red she said yellow. Don’t ask questions. Don’t think that you have done anything wrong. Do not blame yourself. Don’t apologize! You have got her on the edge. Most likely the edge of something incredibly fantastic. Stick to your negotiated plan…
Yellow – Just means Yellow!